What I Have Learned In My 45 Years Of Life.

Hello friends today Thursday March 12th is my 45th birthday and I wanted to take the time to reflect on everything that I learned in my 45 years of being on the earth. I truly feel blessed and extremely grateful that God allowed me to see another year. So let’s just jump into it.

My Peace Is Everything.

I have learned in my 45 years of life that my peace is everything to me. I will never allow another person, place, and environment to jeopardize my peace. After years of being in a toxic narcissistic relationship taught me that I am not responsible for another persons happiness and that my peace is not up for discussion. I have learned to choose wisely who I allow in my life. I don’t like drama, gossip, negativity, and toxic behavior. I only surround myself with people who pour into my cup and in return I pour back into their cup. I choose to only be around other people that add value to my life and encourage me to be the best version of myself. There is nothing better than truly feeling at peace and enjoying the little things that make me happy.

Self-Care Is Important.

Another lesson that I learned in my 45 years of life that self-care is so important and necessary. Again when I was in my narcissistic relationship before I left and blocked going no contact I neglected my self-care. Self-care is important because you need to take care of yourself. When you look good you feel good. If you don’t make yourself a priority nobody else will make you a priority. Self-care is self-love and it is okay to be selfish to have your me time. You can’t love on other people if you don’t love on yourself first.

Boundaries Are A Must.

Another hard lessoned that I had to learn is that having boundaries is a must. Boundaries helps you to protect your peace and helps you to weed out the people that have bad intentions. As a retired people pleaser I no longer do things that I don’t want to do and No has been my favorite word. People that love and respect you will never go against your boundaries.

Gratitude Is A Must.

I have learned to appreciate everything that I have and to be grateful for every aspect of my life. I am so grateful for life because tomorrow is not promised to any of us. The more gratitude that you show for the things that you have the more that God will give you more blessings and things to be grateful for. Life is truly a gift and I am grateful that I get to experience it.

Chasing My Dreams.

When I was still in my narcissistic relationship I was made to feel guilty and mentally punished because I was doing what made me happy and wanting to chase my dreams. I will never let anyone make me feel guilty again for doing what I love and going after my dreams. I love being a content creator, blogger, and influencer my dream is to one day become a full time content creator. Another dream of mines is to have my candle business because your girl loves candles. So your girl is going to continue chasing her dreams.

Embracing The New Chapter Of My Life.

December 2025 I moved from my apartment, moved home, and ended a 14 year narcissistic relationship. I am on my healing journey because if you have ever been around a narcissist then you know that is a relationship that you definitely have to heal from. I have been so grateful for being able to move back home while I figure out my next move. I am just so happy and at peace while embracing this new chapter of my life. I look forward to seeing what God will bless me with. Change is scary because of the unknown but growth doesn’t happen when you're comfortable. Elevation, growth, and success only happens when your uncomfortable. I know that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13).

My Final Thoughts.

Happy Birthday to me I am so grateful to see 45 years of life. I am looking forward to what new blessings, opportunities, in this new chapter of my life. I just want to say thanks for all your love and support. Thanks for reading and I will see you all in my next blog post.